Part of the Goals 2010 Challenge Series, Goal 11
If I still bit my nails, I would be biting them, but this was a previous goal I did accomplish. The next goal in this series has my stomach in knots. What is this daunting task? I have to ask my director a question. That’s it! I just have to ask a question. However, for many of us asking for a favor requires us to muster all our courage and strength. Why? Probably, we are afraid of being told no, being a bother, or how others perceive us for asking. When I think about it, this is silly. I am learning to get over the fear of asking by working closely with Tom Whitby. Tom is fearless. For example, when getting Alfie Kohn to be a guest on Edchat, I made the suggestion, but Tom actually was brave enough to ask. Tom has asked other guest speakers to be a part of Edchat as well. Tom’s philosophy as he recently tweeted is “If you never ask, your life becomes a world of what if’s. Not a good way to live.”
Therefore, today’s short-term goal is to ask. The long-term goal is to build up the courage to ask, especially if you think it is improbable. The answer might be no. Getting over the fear of being turned down is definitely one goal I hope to achieve.
On the same note, another goal is to learn to say no. This is one goal I have a difficult time with, but I am realizing that having too much on one’s plate is not a healthy way of accomplishing tasks effectively. I think the same fears are mirrored, because if we fear people saying no to us, then we fear saying no as well.
If you have neither of these problems then consider teaching your students to ask questions and learn to say no. Many of our students fear asking for help, because they fear what others might think. Never learning to ask for help hurts students. The student may have a learning disorder that is never discovered, may never receive a recommendation letter for a scholarship, or may fail a subject. Teaching your students not to fear the word no will also help them after they leave your class. This is a real world lesson.
Ask a question or say no to a task. You can also choose to help your students achieve these goals.
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Care to share your experiences with asking for the improbable?